X for Xtra Effort
I firmly believe that being in love makes someone a better person. I also believe that we learn to recognize and love ourselves when we fall in love with someone else. This phenomenon is something I include in my romance novels, and that I see in many movies and real life too. We do things we thought we’d never be able to do or willing to do. We put in that extra bit that we wouldn’t spare if we weren’t in love.
Here’s a list of effects I think real love causes:
- We are more willing to make compromises. I see that when love leads to marriage, for such a relationship would never be able without both partners agreeing to meet in the middle.
- We travel that extra mile to meet with our loved one, sometimes hanging onto long-distance relationships.
- We (women) want to feel extra beautiful and spend hours applying the right make-up and searching for the perfect outfit for a date.
- We prepare extra tasty meals or buy presents as little extra tokens of affection.
- We are especially forgiving because we don’t want to lose our love. Even if there are fights – and sometimes even bigger problems or cheating – many couples stick together and oversee behaviour they’d never tolerate if they weren’t buoyed and backed by love.
In movies and books, we frequently see people in love making sacrifices: They agree to quit their job or ditch their education, they move to a different place to live, they break their ties with friends and family, they put someone else’s dream above their own. If that isn’t extra effort, I don’t know what is.
How about you? Are you willing to make sacrifices for a relationship to work? What EXTRA do you invest into love?